Abesifazane nokuzala: Kuthiwani uma bekube kuwamanga amakhulu?
Sonke sikhulele kulomqondo ofanayo othi “Kuqala uthando, kulandele umshado, bese kulandela ingane esesitimeleni sezingane.” Kodwa iqiniso wukuthi umphakathi uyashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kowesifazane wesimanje, sekufana nokuthi “Kuqala imfundo, bese kuba iziqu eziphakeme, bese kuba nomsebenzi omuhle nokuvikeleka kwezezimali” kanti kuphela ngemva kwakho konke lokhu kuphuma uthando, umshado nezingane. Kodwa ingabe leli phetho elijabulisayo linikezwa ngokuzenzakalela na??
Noma singathanda ukukukholwa, asikwazi ukulawula isikhathi sethu somzimba nangazo zonke lezi zinto ezithuthukile ze-reproductive science nobuchwepheshe esinabo.
UTanya Selvaratnam, umbhali wencwadi entsha ethi “The Big Lie: Motherhood, Feminism, and the Reality of the Biological Clock”, wayecabanga ukuthi angakwenza lokho agcwalise wonke amagoli akhe emsebenzini ngaphambi kokuzama ukuba nengane.
Kodwa ngemva kokulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa kathathu, ukwelashwa kwe-IVF okuningi nokugcina ngokwehlukana kwakhe ngesehlukaniso, wabona ukuthi usebelinde isikhathi eside kakhulu.
UTanya ubhale le ncwadi ukuze axoxe indaba yakhe, amaphutha akhe futhi asikhumbuze ukuthi sicabange ngomvundla wethu wesikhathi esizayo kungakabiphi.
“The Big Lie” iphinde ibe wubizo lokuthatha isinyathelo kwabesifazane. Ezahlukweni zokugcina, uSelvaratnam ufaka isahluko esicwaningwe kahle esinesihloko esithi “Action Items for the Future,” ukuze abesifazane balungiselele kangcono futhi bazi kahle ngezinketho zabo. Ufuna ukusikhumbuza ukuthi sicabange futhi siqaphele ngempela ngezinkinga zomvundla ezingase zibe khona esikhathini esizayo ngaphambi kokuba kube sekuwe sekwedlule isikhathi.
Ngeshwa ziningi izindaba ezifana nekaTanya. Ngokuzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukunipha iseluleko sokuthi nibhekane kanjani nezinkinga zokungakwazi ukuzala, silungiselele izihloko ezimbalwa eningazifunda kanye ne-Conceive Plus yenu i-fertility lubricant.Imibhangqwana eminingi iyahlukana ngenxa yokungabi nabantwana
Indlela isisindo somzimba (BMI) esingathinta ngayo amathuba ethu okukhulelwa
Izinkinga zempilo yezingane ‘ezihlotshaniswa neminyaka yobaba’
Umvundla wami ngingazi kanjani ukuthi ngiyakwazi yini ukuzala (Ukubhala phansi umjikelezo wokuzala)
Inhlanhla enhle futhi ningazibambezeli ukubuza uma nineminye imibuzo!
