Ingcindezi Yomphakathi Yokukhulelwa. Kule nkathi yanamuhla evulekile, umuntu angalindela ukuthi ingcindezi ebekwa ezitshadweni yokuthi bakhulelwe isibe seyaphela. Kodwa kude nalokho okwenzeka. Imithombo yezindaba, kanye nabangani nomndeni, kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nabantu ongabazi, bonke banombono wokuthi owesifazane kufanele aqale nini ukuba nezingane, futhi leyo mibono ivezwa ngezwi elikhulu. Kuyavunywa, le mibono ngokuvamile iba nenhloso enhle, kodwa ingaba nzima futhi icindezeleke; ikakhulukazi uma leyo mibhangqwana isivele inezinkinga zokukhulelwa
problems conceiving, noma ingafuni neze ukuba nezingane.
Ivela kuphi
Ingcindezi enkulu ebekwa kwabanye ababhangqwana, ngisho noma indandatho isanda kugqokwa emunweni, ivame ukuvela kulabo abafuna ukuba ogogo nomkhulu maduze. Ngenxa yesifiso sabo sokuba baselula ngokwanele ukuze bajabulele abazukulu babo, bayathuka besabe ukuthi isikhathi siyaphela. Uma owesifazane esefinyelele eminyakeni engamashumi amathathu, imibuzo iqala ngokuqinisekile.
Lokhu konke kulungile uma umbhangqwana usukulungele ukuba nezingane. Kepha kwenzekani kulabo asebezamile izinyanga noma iminyaka bengaphumeleli? Bangase bangafuni ukwabelana ngaleli sikhathi esinzima nesingokwangasese nabo bonke umuntu abahlangana naye. Futhi imibuzo engapheli ingangeza kuphela usizi nokudikibala kwabo. Lolu cindezelo olwengeziwe lungaqhubeka nokunciphisa amathuba abo okuya ekukhulelweni
conception, ngoba ingcindezi ivusa izimpendulo zama-hormone ezenza ukukhulelwa kube nzima. Kunezindaba eziningi zokuthi abesifazane abebelokhu bezama ukukhulelwa iminyaka eminingi kunzima, kodwa bagcine bekhulelwe kuphela lapho sebe‘yekile ukuzama’ futhi besuse ingcindezi kubo.
Ungenzeni wena?
Cabanga ukudumala nosizi okufanele kuzwayo lapho owesifazane ebuzwa njalo ukuthi uzoba nezingane nini, kanti eqinisweni ufisa ingane kakhulu kodwa akakwazi ukukhulelwa. Noma uma owesifazane engenaso nhlobo isifiso sokuba nezingane—umqondo okunzima ukuwuqonda kubantu abaningi, ikakhulukazi labo abakwi-older generations.
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi
ukuzala kuncipha ngokuhamba kweminyaka, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi owesifazane akakwazi ukukhulelwa ekupheleni kwawo-30 noma ekuqaleni kwawo-40. Ingcindezi ebekelwa abesifazane ingaba yingozi. Bangase bazizwe bene‘
kuthiwani uma’ — bekhulelwa bengakaqondi ukuthi sebakulungele yini, ngoba besaba ‘uthiwani uma ngingasakwazi ukukhulelwa eminyakeni embalwa ezayo’. Ingcindezi yokuphuthuma ekuqaleni komndeni ingaholela kwezinye izinkinga, ebudlelwaneni bombhangqwana nasekubophiseni ubuhlobo nengane.
Iyiphi impendulo engcono kakhulu?
Pho iyiphi impendulo engcono kakhulu uma ubhekene nengcindezi evela kubantu abaningi kangaka? Kuyisinqumo somuntu ukuthi ulwazi olungakanani afuna ukulwabelana nabanye; abanye abenankinga ukuxoxa ngalesi sihloko nanoma yiziphi izinkinga obala, kanti abanye bathanda ukukugcina kuwena. Ukugcina izimpendulo zikhuluma kahle kungaba yindlela engcono kakhulu, ngoba abantu bavame ukungazi ukuthi imibuzo yabo ibangela ukudabuka. Ukugcina izinto kubantu okufanele bazi kuphela kungasiza ukunciphisa ezinye zezimbuzo ezingapheli nokugconoza. Ngokucacile, impendulo yakho iyohluka kuye ngomuntu nobudlelwane onabo naye. Ilunga lomndeni elingagcini mayelana nendaba lingadinga impendulo eqondile nengaqondile ukukhombisa ngokusobala ukuthi angeke ukhulume ngendaba nalo. Ngokumayelana nozakwenu emsebenzini, kunconywa ukuheha imibuzo yabo nge-humor nokungavezi okuningi.
Noma ngabe isinqumo sokuya ekubeni nezingane noma ukuqala nini
ukuzama ukukhulelwa, noma uma kuvela izinkinga ze-
fertility, ingcindezi ebekelwa abesifazane ingadala indawo egcwele ingcindezi futhi eyilimazayo. Kuyisinqumo somuntu mathupha esingeyomunye umuntu ngaphandle kwababili abathintekayo.
