Izindaba Zezingane Zosaziwayo: U-Elisabeth Rohm uthi angaba yizwi lodaba lokungazali

U-Elisabeth Rohm usanda ukuqeda ukubamba iqhaza ku-Fertility Planit - umcimbi wezinsuku ezimbili owawungo-April 4-5 eNyuvesi yaseCalifornia eLos Angeles. Lo bekungumcimbi wokuqala onjalo, i-Fertility Planit ibingumbukiso ogxile ngokuphelele ekungazali, ibonisa ongoti abahamba phambili kwezokuzala. Izihloko ebezixoxwa zihlanganisa i-Beginners Guild to Infertility, Ukuzikhethela ukuba umzali oyedwa, Ukuqandisa amaqanda, Ukwakha umndeni we-LGBT, Ukuamukelwa kwezingane, Ukungazali kwabesilisa, Ukuzala ngaphezu kweminyaka engu-40, Ukuamukelwa kwezingane, kanye ne-IVF.

Lo mdlali wefilimu uthethe ngobumama, i-IVF kanye nencwadi yakhe ethi, "Having the Child I Always Wanted (Just Not As Expected)." Ezinye izindondo ezidumile ezikhulume khona zihlanganisa u-Emily Blunt, oGuncles u-Scout Masterson no-Bill Horn, kanye no-Jason Patric.

I-Celebrity Baby Scoop ixoxisane no-Rohm ngaphambi komcimbi ukuze kuxoxwe nge-Fertility Planit, umzabalazo wakhe odlule wokungazali, nokuba ngumama nendodakazi yakhe u-Easton.

Q: Imibhangqwana eminingi ibhekana nenkinga yokungazali, kanti encwadini yakho ethi "Having the Child I Always Wanted (Just Not As Expected)" uvula inhliziyo wabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Ucabanga ukuthi indaba yakho inikeze kanjani ithemba kwabesifazane abangakaze bakwazi ukukhulelwa?

A: "Ngicabanga ukuthi sonke sidinga umngane nendawo ephephile lapho singakwazi ukuxoxa iqiniso lethu. Imfihlo iyagulisa, futhi ukuhlupheka uthule akukhuthazwa. Sonke sidinga ukuxhumana nobuntu nomusa. Ukuguqula indaba ebhekwa njengento enqatshelwe ibe yinto evulekile nakho kuyaduduza. Ngithemba ukuthi kuyaduduza kwabesifazane abasebancane abangakakagcini indlela eya ebumnene kodwa abangalifisa. Ngifuna ukubanika ulwazi olufanele ukuze babe namandla olwazini ngalokho okwenzeka emizimbeni yabo. Ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kwakha umphakathi ojulile phakathi kwabesifazane."

Q: I-Fertility Planit iyinkundla ehlukile yokufunda kabanzi ngezindlela zokwelashwa. Yini ekugqugquzele ukuba ube yingxenye yalolu hlelo lokufinyelela kubantu?

A: "Angiqiniseki ukuthi ngiyakwazi kanjani ukunikeza noma ubani iseluleko ngokwelashwa, kodwa ngingaba yizwi lokuvuleleka nomusa kulesi sihloko. Ngifuna ukukhuthaza abesifazane ukuba basebenzele imizimba yabo bengalindi. Le yingxenye nje yesifo enginayo. Ukube benginolesinye isifo, mhlawumbe bengizokhathazeka kakhulu ngabesifazane ngaleyo ndlela futhi bengifuna ukuvula ngaleso simo, njengalokhu u-Angelina Jolie evuleke kakhulu ngokwenza i-double mastectomy. Ngicabanga ukuthi lokho kuyindlela ephakeme kakhulu yokuphila. Abesifazane bangumphakathi ngokwemvelo futhi kufanele babe njalo, ngoba badinga ukuxhumana, badinga ukukhuluma, futhi badinga ukukwazi ukuthembana."

Q: Yiziphi izinhlobo zokwesekwa ezikhona kwabesifazane abahlupheka ngokungazali?

A: "Uma kukhona okukodwa engikufezele ngokubhala incwadi yami, bekuzoba ukusiza abesifazane besizukulwane sokuzala. Banezimpilo zabo ezandleni zabo, ngoba bangaya kudokotela wabo we-OB/GYN bayohlola izinga labo lokuzala nezinqolobane ze-hormone. Uma uqala ukwenza lokho uneminyaka engu-30, usulawula ikusasa lakho njengomama. Ngifuna ngempela ukubona abesifazane benamandla anikezwe ulwazi oluhle. Ngokubahlomisa ngolwazi mayelana nodokotela, mina nginenodokotela omangalisayo ongisizayo. Ngingamcomba ngenjabulo."

Q: Uyigqugquzeli omkhulu wezifundo zokufunda. Ufundela u-Easton izinhlobo zini zezincwadi?

A: "Sifunda u-Harry Potter futhi siyawuthanda. Usezilungiselela ukuguqula iminyaka engu-6 ngo-April, ngakho usafunda ukufunda. Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyimpumelelo enkulu ukuthi uyangivumela ngimfunde incwadi enamakhasi angu-400!"

Q: Yiziphi izeluleko ongazinika abazali ukuze basize izingane zabo zakhe imikhuba emihle yokufunda?

A: "Thanda ukufunda wena uqobo futhi ufake umdlandla kukho. Jabula ngakho, ubuye ekhaya uthi, 'Ake sifunde ukuthi kwenzekani emva kwalokhu ku-Harry Potter!' Angisakwazi nokulinda uma ngiqhudelana ngisemsebenzini ngingekho ekhaya ngingakwazi ukumfundela. Kuphula inhliziyo yami ngithi kuye, 'Angikholwa ukuthi ngeke sikwazi ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekani emva kwalokhu.' Ngithanda ukuxoxa izindaba ngoba kubonisa okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kobuntu. Ungavusa lolo thando enganeni yakho umenze athande izindaba. Ukuxoxa izindaba kumayelana neqiniso . . . uyavumelana neqiniso lakho. Uyazihlanganisa nabalingiswa emafilimini nasemibhalweni, futhi uma uthanda lokho, nezingane zakho zizokuthanda. Umama wami nomama wami wesibili bathanda ukufunda, futhi ngiyakuthanda ukuthi indodakazi yami manje isiyathanda ukufunda ngoba nami ngiyathanda ukufunda."

Q: Ingabe u-Easton ubheke ngabomvu ikhefu lasehlobo?

A: "Uyazi, ungomunye walezo zingane ezijabule kakhulu esikoleni sakhe, okuyinto enhle! Ufike lapho ngicabanga ukuthi kudingeka abe khona, kodwa nakanjani ujabulile. Uzokuza eMontreal nami eholidini ngenkathi ngisebenza. Bese engena ngqo ezinhlelweni zakhe zasehlobo zasolwandle."

Q: Yini ohlele ukuyenza ukuze uhlale ematasatasa kuleli hlobo?

A: "Sihlala emphakathini oseduze nolwandle ngakho uzoya ekamu lasolwandle afunde ukushefa amagagasi nokunye konke lokho. Umyeni wami nendodakazi yami yokuganana bangabadlali abakhulu be-tennis, ngakho uzokuqala ukufunda i-tennis kuleli hlobo. Uyazi, nje lezo zinto ezijwayelekile."

Q: Izingane zingabafundisi bethu abakhulu. Ufundeni ku-Easton njengomama wakhe?

A: "Ngicabanga ukuthi engikufundile, njengalokho umama wami wangifundisa khona, wukuthi akupheli kuze kuphele ngempela. Kuhlale kukhona ithuba lokuvuselelwa nokubuyiselwa kothando. Usuku ngalunye lusha futhi ungawela embhedeni wakho ukhathele uphelelwe amandla, bese ekuseni uvuka unelinye ithuba lothando futhi unelinye ithuba lokuba ngumama. Ungifundise lokho. Nsuku zonke ngivuka ngithi, 'WOW, ngiyakuthanda kakhulu!' Uhlala unesiqalo esisha; akupheli kuze kuphele ngempela. Hawu, kanjani? Uthola olunye usuku kusasa."

Q: Ucabanga ukuthi u-Easton angathi ungumama onjani?

A: "Uhlala engitshela ukuthi ngingumama omkhulu kunabo bonke emhlabeni. Engicabanga ukuthi akusho ngalokho wukuthi ngiyajabulisa. Ngiyazibandakanya naye futhi ngithanda ukugcina ingqondo yakhe enelukuluku iphile. Ngihleka naye, ngiyamkhulisa, futhi angimunaki. Ngicabanga ukuthi ngikhona. Angiqiniseki ukuthi yena uqobo angasho ukuthini, mhlawumbe uthi nje 'Ungumama omkhulu.' "

Q: Yisiphi isikhumbuzo osithanda kakhulu se-Mommy and Me sakho?

A: "Ziningi kakhulu. Ekugcineni, ngicabanga ukuthi yileso sikhathi engisazokuba naso esingijabulisa kakhulu."

Q: Ingabe unamaphrojekthi azayo ongathanda ukuwabelana nathi?

A: "Ngisadubula iphayilothi njengamanje ye-TNT ebizwa ngokuthi 'Guilt By Association,' kanti nginawo ne-movie esanda kuphuma. Yilokho okungenzeka okwenzeka."